Stuff happens all the time, and i think, Oh i should blog that! But then i put it off and put it off...you know how it goes.
But i'm going to try and post here more often. I really do want to. I'm just slack!
So, on to today's blither!....
I have two beautiful daughters. Both raised be me, with the same household rules, in the same middle class Australian suburbia.
The oldest Alix is 17 [i've written about her lots on here] and she is the most narcissistic person i've ever known! I seriously can't fathom that she came from me! She has always been self centred with very little to no empathy for others. In fact she enjoys watching others get hurt.
She has serious anger issues, doesn't care what she looks like, how others see her, and blames all her life's problems on the terrible way she was "treated", growing up. Never taking responsibility for any of her own actions. She has always been abrasive and impossible to reason with for as long as i can remember.
She thinks the world owes her everything and she's continuously stepping up to claim it.
She is completely boy crazy, couldn't wait to lose her virginity, and now can't even tell you how many guys she's slept with, at 17! [[Today she's about 3 months pregnant & doesn't know who the father is]
She never tried at school and dropped out as soon as she was legally able.
We can't see eye to eye on anything and i find it very difficult to be around her at any given time, and vice versa. Even though i found it hard being with Alix, i never stopped looking for things in common and looking for ways to relate. Regardless, Alix has and continues to treat me like i'm the No 1 enemy.
She moved out of home 3 years ago - she couldn't wait to leave!
Then there's Rose, 13. She has always been the sweetest thing and she just draws people to her.
She would do anything for anyone. She has a great sense of humour, a healthy sense of justice in the world, is one of the most responsible kids i know, is fair in every situation she's put in, freely acknowledges when she's done something wrong and immediately takes steps to correct it.
She dresses modestly and cares about what other people think about her, how she conducts herself, and her actions.
She doesn't put too much importance in boys. In fact, last year she dumped her [second] "boyfriend" because he kissed her on the cheek without permission. She has a boyfriend now and she's just allowed him to hold her hand. It's very cute.
She's an "A" student and loves school to the point of nerdiness. She has a plan for her life.
I get on with Rose really well and i really enjoy spending time with her.
I don't understand how my two girls can be so very different. I tried to treat them equally. Admittedly, Alix was disciplined more because her behaviour warranted it. But i tried to be fair in everything i did and it was important for them to know that i did whatever i did coz i love[d] them.
They had minimal chores that are the basics - Feed the pets, clean your room, be home at a reasonable hour, and put the rubbish out. One thought that was unfair and the other thought that was an easy ride. Every day, the huge gap of similarities between the two grows bigger, and i just don't get it.
Nature Versus nurture? Hhmmmmm This one's got me stumped!
